The high: Got an e-mail from our adoption facilitator that our young birth mom made it to the embassy and was firm in her commitment to adoption. Oh Lord, to parent this little boy we love so much! We were thrilled. High fived. Laughed out loud.
The low: We received an e-mail from USCIS (the embassy) a few hours later. Our young mom wrote the name of a birth father. Up to this point she had been the only parent named – the father was unknown. Of course USCIS wants to interview this man. That interview is now scheduled for March 22nd.
The truth (even though it’s hard): Dad deserves a voice. It’s so important that Laurentz’s dad knows what is going on and feels comfortable with this decision. He should also have the right to say no. Or yes. Or maybe.
The frustration: We know truth and we honor it. But we’re just not a huge fan of our hearts beating out there all fragile and vulnerable for what seems like forever.
But then again that’s what adoption is all about. And it’s not likely to change even after we get one, two or three of them home.
Fragile. Vulnerable. Out there.
It’s what we signed up for.